Thursday, 31 October 2013

primal hunger or just an itch to scratch?

Lots of sex talk this weekend, discussing likes and dislikes. It's so bloody fascinating isn't it.  No matter how old you are, the evolution of needs, wants and preferences is just one of those topics I could discuss for hours on end. It amazes me what a huge spectrum there is, from prudish to extreme, and everything in between.

I have just finished reading Nikki Gemmell's I Take You. It was okay. Her books are getting a little repetitive and silly, but I read it quickly and it got me thinking about what is 'normal' nowadays. It also made me question my own preferences and what is and isn't off limits, because I hate think I'm missing out on something, but then again, I don't feel the pressure to 'explore' any more. I've been there and done most of it. I know what I like and what I absolutely don't. To be honest, I'm glad I'm not in that phase of my life where you have to experiment and challenge and push boundaries. 

I guess the thing that I am most surprised by, is that age doesn't necessarily dampen a persons sex drive. I presumed, naively, that as you got older you'd want 'it' less, but from talking to others (people of all ages), that isn't the case.


Wednesday, 30 October 2013

supre sale

Supre is not a shop I frequent. Figure hugging, short, Lycra clothes for the under 30s - usually. Yesterday however, this was not the case. I happened to be at DFO (buying a fascinator for a Melbourne Cup lunch next week) when my eyes popped at the words Supre $5 SALE! Oooo happy days!!! It was a bit of a jumble inside the store, rack upon rack of dresses, but I still ended up in the changing room with about 16 things to try on! I came away with four dresses and a (hate the word) pant-suit! Perfect dresses for summer, including the one below. The other three are long. All jersey and super wearable. All $5! I'll post pics soon.

Brisbane ladies, get yourself down to DFO!

Opps! Should have sucked my stomach in - it looks like a fanny!

Supre $5 (was $40) stripey dress and tan Witchery wedges

Friday, 25 October 2013

bloody ugly shoes

These shoes aren't aimed for women over 30, but unfortunately they will be worn by women who get sucked into what's 'on trend' and forget that it's actually about what looks good on them...

This seasons summer shoes are quite frankly ugly and are just way to reminiscent of shoes for people who have something wrong with their legs or feet (without wanting to sound mean about the disabled)... My English teacher at school, Mr Saunders, had not choice but to wear hideous shoes not dissimilar to these ghastly examples.  He suffered from Polio as a child, one leg was a lot shorter than the other, so had to wear a huge platform on one foot.  He was a cool teacher, everyone liked him, so no one took the piss, but those shoes... They are burnt into my memory. Uggghhh.

I will NOT be buying any of these My Tony Bianco. 

If any of my dear readers are insane enough to like these you can buy them here.

Tony Bianco Ranee in white $189.95
Tony Bianco Jayme in black $109.95
Tony Bianco Bella in black suede $149.95

Tony Bianco Jener in white $159.95

Tony Bianco Deon in fudge $159.95

Tony Bianco Radical in black $159.95

Wednesday, 23 October 2013

middle aged madness

I've just finished a booked called Mutton by India Knight. I really enjoyed it and must admit to giggling quite a few times whilst reading. It's a story of a 46 year old divorced mother of three who starts to question what's 'age appropriate' when you're in your 40s. I am a little embarrassed at how much I related to this book, which is essentially an honest exploration of what it means to be a female hitting 'middle age' and what happens when the builders stop whistling at you, lines start to appear on your face and you start to question what you can wear so that you still look cool without being 'mutton'.

This book resonated with me because it's a strange phase of life that I'm currently journeying into. I'm not really 'young' anymore, and while I'm totally okay with that, I am actually quite content and happy with myself, I don't want to be 'old'.  At some point in the next decade, no matter how fit and healthy, I will cross that line of looking middle aged, and I admit I don't like the prospect of becoming invisible. But then again I don't want to become obsessed with looking great no matter what cost. 

Once again, as always, it's all about balance isn't it? About being happy with yourself and surrounding yourself with honest, like minded people who 'get' you and your quirks and just enjoy the here and now and making the most of what you have.

Tuesday, 22 October 2013

pregnancy no no

No I'm certainly not pregnant. And this isn't a mumsy blog. But I have to tell you, I was truly shocked by something I saw the other day, outside my local shopping centre, as I walked back to my car.

So shocked that I couldn't help but stare with a confused, horrified, disgusted look on my face (oh dear I'm turning into an old hag who looks like she's sucking on a sour sweet). There was a young lady (well younger than me) massively, heavily, stomach strainingly, about to pop any minute pregnant, walking along with her partner - sucking on a cigarette! I mean deep drags, filling her lungs like her life depended on it. She saw me. I couldn't look away. She enjoyed seeing my horror struck face, so she took another long drag and blew the smoke in my direction!

Who does that? It's 2013. We know better. Who smokes (in broad sunny day public), without a care in the world while pregnant?! I'm sorry but what a skank. No excuses. 

Sunday, 20 October 2013

mid life tantrums

Do you suffer from tantrums? I do. I had one this morning. After spending a lovely restlessful couple of hours, reading, topping up my tan by the pool. I came inside for lunch, discovered my first born had been reading all morning and outspewed a rant about homework and deadlines and getting your priorities right (like a bloody broken record). Then I accidentally knocked the cheesy biscuits tin off the side of the kitchen counter and we both stood in silence for a moment, staring at the broken biscuits all over the floor, waiting for my reaction to come... would it be nice mummy or horrible mummy?

My thoughts were, one, take a deep breath, laugh, say, "Opps silly mummy!" and sweep them up. Two, erupt. I chose two. I couldn't contain it. Really, I couldn't. And out it came! Wooosh! Nasty, childish, horrible words and accusations and fault blaming. All directed at my clever, polite, sweet, but not-as-on-top-of-his-assignments-as-he-could-be, boy. Oh dear. I've said it before, but sometimes I do think I should of just stuck to raising cats... 

Saturday, 19 October 2013

summer sandals

Ummm. I like the sandals a lot. They're $769 from Saint Laurent. Perfect for summer. Ummm. I want.

Thursday, 17 October 2013

today I am wearing...

I really like playsuits (hate the name, sounds like something a baby or a Playboy Bunny would wear), they are perfect for casual summer wear. I got this one yesterday at Cotton On for $19.95.  It's soft and light and comfy. I'll wear it a lot over the sunny season.

There are some really lovely ones around in the shops, casual or smart, and thankfully not all of them are designed for 12 year olds - by that I mean, so short that you need legs like a supermodel to wear one.

Cotton On Cuban Strappy Playsuit $19.95

Cotton On Potty Playsuit $19.95
Cotton On Cuban Playsuit $19.95
Cotton On Cuban Playsuit $19.95
Portmans Kendal Playsuit $89.95
Portmans Hayley Jumpsuit $89.95

Tuesday, 15 October 2013

wheels & dollbaby

I rather like these dresses by Sydney brand Wheels & Dollbaby. Very classic hourglass retro. The models aren't my 'cup of tea' (a bit too much porn star / biker chic vibe for me), but the dresses are lovely.

Ponti Supper Club Dress $195

Classic Corset Dress $395

Classic Bra Dress $260

Classic Corset Print Dress $335

Monday, 14 October 2013


Actors showing us their orgasmic faces to promote Lars Von Thier's new movie Nymphomaniac (Lars produced the controversial film Idiots in 98). Very effective and intriguing. I like them. I like the simple design of the images. The posters combined with Shia LaBeouf telling MTV News that the A Lister's would engage in real sex for the camera, has resulted in a lot of media coverage about this movie (it turns out they have cast porn actors for the real sex bits). 

So where do you stand on actual sex in movies, mainstream movies, not porn...? By that I mean proper movies that have story lines but also real sex scenes, rather than films just about the sex.

I'm undecided. No. Actually I think it's unnecessary. It turns a film, however good/arty the story into a porn film. Just a more 'high brow' one. It complicates the film and in some cases feels wrong, like you're perving on someone's most intimate moments. I feel it also crosses some kind of line with the actor too. Do we really need to see someone famous getting off whilst 'acting'?

I really enjoyed Caligula, the film starring Peter O'Toole, Helen Mirren and Malcolm McDowell. I first saw the uncut version in Amsterdam in the early 90s. A good film, but with porno bits and a big mass orgy.

And, 9 Songs, the 2006 film which features sex, masturbation, oral and ejaculation. A story about a normal couple and their relationship. Again, a good film, but it's still porn really. Would the film have even made headlines if it didn't have explicit footage? And I've never seen the actors in anything else.    

There have been a few others too, mainly European, but the English ones, you may have heard of include, Romance, Intimacy, Shortbus, Ken Park, and of course, Brown Bunny featuring Chloe Sevigny giving a blow job...(totally over rated!).

Maybe I'm just getting old, but I think some things are better left to your imagination. I find the subject of sex immensely fascinating and I am not anti porn at all (although there are limits and boundaries) but, I think in film, it's just to get attention.